Meditation – Why, How and When

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I have been asked this question many times and even so I do it every day until now I never really spoke about it. So here it is:

Anyone who knows me knows that I try to avoid doing things without knowing what the expected outcome or result should be. This is basically my point of measurement and direction.

The first questions I have to ask myself is what I want to have, where I want to be and how I want to feel after I meditate. To answer these questions I need to delve a bit into the human psyche and its mental and physical effects.

As humans, we are exposed to many things during the day. We are constantly influenced by pretty much anyone and everything around us. Everything wants our attention and of course, all of this has an impact on how we think and act every minute of our life.

On top of that, there are our own beliefs, wishes, and obligations. This all adds up to a mix of feelings, thoughts, and distractions.

This state is not helpful if you want to get something done or concentrate on one thing only without the influence of everything around you.
So the answer to the questions above are the following:

  • I want to have a switch that allows me to disconnect from all the noise around me
  • I want to have a place where I can be me on my own
  • I want to feel secure and sure about my decisions and actions.

And that any time and anywhere.

Now I know why and when. The only question open is how to get there.

I guess I could build a bunker, which cancels all the noise, accessible only by me, but that would not sort out the noise (thoughts, dreams, fears, etc.) in my head.

Besides that, it would be based on a location. This means the solution has to come from within me to work. It would require me to cancel out everything around and within my head.

We all know we can’t think of nothing (try it, it doesn’t work). So what could we think about that is stronger than all the other things together, requires the least amount of effort and can be done in an instant, anywhere and any time?

To find the answer, we need to look at the things we already naturally do without having to think about it. Things like breathing, walking, laughing, crying, etc. It would probably include most of the physical functions in our body which are natural to us.

But the only one that fits the bill in every aspect is breathing. We can (and have to) breathe in an instant, any time and anywhere. I’ve chosen breathing because it is the easiest to work with.

Of course our heart also beats all the time and anywhere, but it is much harder to influence and to concentrate on. But if you feel comfortable with it you can work with this too.

This is what I do:

  • I find a secure spot with the least amount of distraction.
  • I take a piece of paper and write down the one thing I want to concentrate on after my meditation.
  • I sit or lean against something in a way that requires the least attention from me and close my eyes.
  • I relax my muscles starting from the top of my head slowly downwards to my feet. Concentrating on the movement of my skin as the muscles relax.
  • I take a deep breath, extending my lower tummy and filling it with air.
  • Concentrating only on how my skin moves while slowly breathing in and slowly breathing out. Naturally slowing the breathing process down, taking more time for each breath.
  • Identifying every movement of my body, my head, my neck, my shoulders, my arms (first left, then right arm), my chest, my stomach, my bum, my legs, my feet and back again.
  • Listening to the noise of my breathing as the air enters my nose and leaves my mouth.
  • My body and my mind become one and start syncing, creating amazing energy, giving me the power to be, really be.
  • Once I feel that all of my muscles are relaxed, I slowly open my eyes and look at the paper with the one thing to concentrate on.
  • Now I am ready, have the energy, knowledge, and wisdom to enjoy the task ahead with all my heart, passion and conviction.

Today this process can take anything between 1 to 5 minutes and are the best minutes spent at any time.

Discovering the power in yourself is indescribable.

John Di Stefano

An entrepreneur at heart and founder of the Entrepreneur Academy in Brussels, Belgium. He is teaching and supporting entrepreneurs in the skills every entrepreneur needs to create a better life for themselves and the people around them.

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