What stops you?

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Have you ever wondered why some people are successful and others not? Why some are sometimes successful and at other times not?
What are the deciding factors of success, and what is our part in this?

To be able to answer these questions, we need to define success and the parts that are required for it to exist.

Success is when we get what we set out to get. We set a goal, do something and get what we want. That part defines already some of the components: the goal and some action.

If we have those two things, we should already be on our way to be successful. However, most people will have that. They think about a goal, like starting a business and start working and working, but somehow, success never comes. There must be something else that’s missing.

But let’s take it apart:

What about Goals?

Goals are a very personal thing and vary from one person to another. Or do they?
Do you set your own goals, or are you driven by what others do or society expects from you?
I think that is a good question.

Also, if you set yourself a small and easy achievable goal, you will most likely be more successful, right?
A definition of a goal could be: A goal is a state you want to be in at a given time in the future.

What about Action?

Action is making something move. This can be yourself or others.
The result will always be a changed state of whatever it is the action was done towards.
More action does not automatically mean more change. It’s just a different result and if that result is more towards that goal, we could call it a success.

Is it luck?

If that is the case, we are completely out of control and can’t do much about it. Luck is something that happens to us and there is very little we can do to entice it.

In the dictionary, it is described as:

“success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s own actions.”

In the end, it is something we can’t rely on. So let’s not get too much into it.

Is it determination?

It is described as: “the quality of being determined; firmness of purpose.”

I believe most people are quite determined and work hard. So why are most people not successful?
It could be that some give up too early. So this could be a part of it on a little scale.

Lack of knowledge or expertise?

It could be. I’ve met a few people with absolutely no idea what they are doing, but some still made it. So it can’t be just that.

Location or Timing?

Being at the right place at the right time could be a significant factor, but it would go against the point of setting a goal. Because if an opportunity opens up, it rarely happens because I wanted to, it just happened, and I took the chance.

If you follow my line so far, you might discover that being successful has nothing to do with any of it and all of it.

Most of you have specific ideas about what being successful means, and you have some expectations of yourself to achieve those goals. What that means is that you want to change something in your life. You want a different state for yourself.

I don’t think it is difficult to be successful. I believe the biggest problem is that most of us don’t know what it means to be successful. Many people chase the wrong dream and never arrive at that state because they don’t even know what it means.

Most have lost their own identity and chasing the things everyone else chases. Not knowing why or how. No wonder most never arrive.

So what can you do to become successful?

I guess the right step must be to define success for yourself. This does not include what you have, but the state you’re going to be in. The kind of person you’re going to be.

You’ll probably find that you not that far away from it already and that the changes you need to make are not that difficult to do. The next step would be to look for the opportunity that will open up when you reached that state.

You’ll discover new opportunities all the time which allows you to grow. This is a constant process of self-development, and that in my eyes is a success.

Success is a natural progression as you develop yourself. Success is not measured on the things you have but on what you are. Set your goals on yourself and start growing, and you will be very successful.

What stops you from being successful?

John Di Stefano

An entrepreneur at heart and founder of the Entrepreneur Academy in Brussels, Belgium. He is teaching and supporting entrepreneurs in the skills every entrepreneur needs to create a better life for themselves and the people around them.

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