Why don’t you just ask!

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If you have children you have the chance to learn the lesson of your life. You might wonder what I am talking about. Let me explain.

A few days ago my three-year-old granddaughter came to visit. This is always an exciting time because we both love to be around each other. I just love her excitement to explore new things, her eagerness to learn and to see her to proudly present all of her achievements from the smallest drawing to the bug she just found in the garden.

But the one thing that stands out is her lack of fear. She is not scared to explore new worlds (let’s face it most of it is new to her). She is also not scared to ask for anything she wants or desires and strangely enough, most of the time she gets what she wants (one way or another).

Her eagerness to learn, to explore, to communicate and to get the things she wants is astounding. But exactly that made her my best teacher ever.

Keep in mind that the word children hear most is “No”. Many times when she asks for something she gets told, “No, you can’t have that” or “No, this is not for children”. But she never gives up. She keeps trying, always exploring new avenues to get what she wants. That is what I call determination.

Why take ‘no’ for an answer?

When was the last time that you didn’t take a No for a No?

When was the last time you asked a question to get what you want?

As we grow up strange things happen in our minds. We form something called “Fear of Rejection”. Like any fear it lives in our mind and keeps growing and growing. It’s pure imagination, but for most of us it’s so powerful that it controls most of our lives.

How many times have you decided not to ask a question because you believed that you wouldn’t get what you wanted anyway? How many times did you not ask the boy or girl for a drink because you thought he or she would never go out with you? How often did you not ask for a pay increase because you thought you would never get it?

If that is you, it is time to step back and become a child again. Life is too short to live in fear of rejection and the chance to get what you want far too high to not give it a real go.

So let me ask you:

When you’re ready to start your business, can I be the one to help you make it happen?

John Di Stefano

An entrepreneur at heart and founder of the Entrepreneur Academy in Brussels, Belgium. He is teaching and supporting entrepreneurs in the skills every entrepreneur needs to create a better life for themselves and the people around them.

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