I found that there are two main reasons why people struggle with change:
- They don’t really want to change. They love the idea of what the change will bring, but are not really ready or willing to actually make it happen. They might get motivated for a while, but if there is no instant change, the motivation quickly dies and they give up. They are lacking a clear goal and vision how much their life would change once they achieved it.
- They don’t have a clear plan and structure to make it happen. They have too many things going on in their lives which takes them away and gets them off track. After a while they give up and lose interest.
The hard part is really the change in your daily routine. It doesn’t only affect the change you want to make, but everything else around it as well. Only if that change becomes part of your daily routine will you be able to really enjoy what that change has brought to you. This takes some time, depending on the impact of that change to your current daily routine. Also your openness towards change and your lifestyle are major factors. Specially when we get older and our routines have run our lives for a long period of time, change can be a challenge.
However, I’ve worked with clients of all ages managing major changes in their lives and using some of the solutions below made them go through it with a smile on their face.
- Write down your goal and why you want it.
- Write down in short sentences how your life will have changed once you’ve achieved it. What will be different? What does it mean for yourself, your family and friends?
- Talk about your planned changes to close friends and family. Make them part of your journey. Speaking about it makes it much clearer for you.
- Everyday review what you’ve written and add one more aspect to the list. (There is always one more)
- Put it in the calendar and do it every single day until it becomes natural to you. It has to become a habit.
- Measure your progress every day. Journal every evening or use a self-rating system that allows you to track your progress and areas where you can improve.
- Find a coach to help advise you and evaluate your progress. If you can’t afford a coach, then get a friend who can go through the process of change with you. They’ll keep you motivated and accountable.
In this world everything is constantly changing. Most of the time we just adjust, reacting to the changes, but the real changes are the ones we created proactively. The changes we want to create to improve our lives and the lives around us are the changes with the real impact. From this point of view change is the best thing you could wish for. Whatever your situation is today, you have the power to change it and be the person you want to be.
What is the next thing you’re going to change?